As I mentioned in an earlier post, when I was questioning religion (but not yet a committed atheist), I realized that my religious beliefs were inextricably tied to my upbringing. If I’d been born to Sikh parents, I’d have been a Sikh. If I’d been born to Jewish parents, I’d have been a Jew. But I was born to (vaguely) Lutheran parents, so I was a Lutheran. And so, for a long time, I assumed that this god was the “right” god. But why? What reason did I have to believe it? I could say, “I just believe,” but then, Muslims could say the same thing about their god. Hell, Mormons all say they “know” Joseph Smith was the prophet and that their church is “true.” What made me right and them wrong?
The conflict deepened shortly after I began giving that matter serious thought. I knew that god had at least one major requirement: belief. This scared me. I wanted to believe. I wanted so badly to just BELIEVE! I wanted the sureness and confidence that I saw in other believers. I wanted to rest easy knowing that I believed and that I’d get an all-access pass from St. Peter when I died. I told myself I could pray, study, think, be good and do good, say outwardly and tell myself inwardly that I believed.
But then I realized that god is omniscient. No matter what I told myself or others, an omniscient god would know what I believed in my heart of hearts, even if I didn’t. So I confronted myself. I asked myself, “Do I believe in god?” The answer was simple: “No.” I didn’t. I knew I didn’t. I wanted to, but I couldn’t help the fact that I did not believe in god. I had no choice — my brain said no, there is no god. No matter how much I wanted the opposite to be true, it wasn’t. And if I was going to be honest with myself, I had to admit that. And I realized that if there is an omniscient, omnipotent god, and if he would condemn me for not believing in him, then I wanted no part of his heaven because he made no damn sense and was a hateful bully.
I’ve been revisiting this idea lately, along with the notion of free will. Most people who believe in god also believe they have free will (Calvinists, you’re exempt from this one). My question to them is this: If god is all-knowing and all-powerful, how do you have free will? If god “has a plan,” how do you have free will? Why would god grant free will only to provide hell as the consequence for not believing what he said to believe? How is that free will? “It’s up to you to decide whether you believe in me. But if you don’t, you’re going to burn for all eternity.” What kind of an option is that?
And if you can somehow reconcile the idea of an omniscient, omnipotent god with the idea of free will, why do you pray? If god already knows your thoughts, why do you have to express them? (I understand that many believers will say prayer for them is akin to writing in a journal — they don’t expect an answer; it just helps them get out of their own heads and express their thoughts and admit powerlessness in certain situations.) For people who pray and expect or hope for help or intervention, I ask why they think they’re worthy of said help or intervention. Certainly many of the people who died in Hurricane Katrina were devout and prayed to be spared but drowned anyway. Certainly there are millions of people everywhere, right now, in pain and dying, who are praying but who aren’t helped by any god. So why would god answer your prayers and not theirs?
All these questions are valid, I think, but they are sub-questions. I want to ask believers two main questions:
1. Why do you believe in god?
2. Why do you believe in your particular god (e.g., the Christian god)?
I don’t know if anyone will answer here, but hopefully a few people who do believe in god will at least think about them on their own. And if anyone does want to talk about them/answer them, please feel free to comment your heart out. I’m very curious as to how people answer those questions.

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March 16, 2009 at 10:52 pm
Thaddeus
You have some very good questions here, and I’m glad I stumbled on your blog. I’m a believing Mormon, and I’ve asked some of these same questions myself, although I came out with different conclusions.
1. Why do you believe in God?
I’ll grant that my upbringing played a huge role, but I feel that I’ve grown beyond the testimony of my parents and I have learned who God is independently. My belief began as a small seed, planted in my heart, which I nurtured carefully through prayer, scripture-study, fasting, and attending church, etc.
I have seen and felt personal evidences that Father is looking out for me and others, and although any skeptic could systematically dismiss them as coincidences or cognitive dissonance, I know that I have felt the peaceful comfort of the Holy Ghost. It is enough for me. The more I feel the witness of the Holy Ghost, the more sense everything makes and the more comfort I feel.
2. Why do you believe in your particular god
You could make the case that I didn’t give the other gods a chance. You might say I’m only a product of my culture, but I will tell you that there is something deeply significant with the story of Jesus.
It’s concrete; He actually lived, and died. Then, He lived again, according to countless witnesses. It’s practical; He saves us from our own evil, while making us good. It’s universal; His story dovetails perfectly with ancient Judaism and (according to Mormonism) his gospel reaches far beyond first century Israel into ancient America and other locations, into the realm of the dead, into the pre-earth spirit world, and into modern times.
But mostly it’s because of the relationship I’ve developed with God through prayer. The best thing I ever did to solidify my sometimes wavering faith was to read the Book of Mormon and ask God if it were true.
When I learned from Him that it is true, I knew I could trust Joseph Smith as a legitimate prophet. Once this foundation was laid, it became much easier to believe, and I began to see the fruits (evidences) of my faith more abundantly.
Thank you for giving me this opportunity to comment.
Thaddeus
P.S. Regarding your question about the fruitlessness of prayer to an omniscient god, I’d like to invite you to look at my blog where I wrote an article on that very topic.
March 17, 2009 at 5:59 pm
kickyandfun
Hi Thaddeus,
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. A close friend of mine (who’s something of an undecided Christian, if I might try to label her faith) answered the first question in a similar way, and I appreciate the honesty — I have never felt such a presence, or else I interpret a similar feeling in a different way (in my opinion), so I find it to be a compelling and personal answer.
One aspect of Mormonism that I find quite interesting is its egalitarianism: the direct communication with god. I’ve read that Joseph Smith attempted to redact the statement that all Mormons could receive “direct impressions from the Lord,” by disclosing (in 1830, and I’m getting this info from Under the Banner of Heaven by Jon Krakauer) another revelation that only he (Smith) could receive commandments and revelations. When you asked god if the Book of Mormon were true, and he answered in the affirmative, is that different? From what I understand, receiving testimony and communicating with god is something all Mormons experience (or attempt to experience, as I’m not sure whether all would consider themselves successful). I just want to clarify this somewhat unique aspect of Mormonism, which I find quite interesting.
Again, thanks so much for your comment!
Katie
March 18, 2009 at 12:08 am
Thaddeus
Katie,
Joseph Smith actively promoted the idea of ‘asking God’ until the day he died. There was no redaction, but a clarification was given. We can all receive personal revelation to receive answers and get direction. It’s when we try to receive revelation beyond our jurisdiction that we get into trouble.
A father’s jurisdiction is over his family; a bishop has stewardship over his congregation. These can receive guidance on behalf of those within their flock, but not outside it. The prophet is steward over all the Church, and if there is ever to be a world-wide pronouncement of the Lord’s words it will come through him. “Surely the Lord God will do nothing, but he revealeth his secret unto his servants the prophets” (Amos 3:7).
Do you still have the smallest ounce of desire to believe? My own experience with God and the Holy Spirit has been the most comforting thing in my life, and I’m happy to share, if you are willing.
I will recommend the Book of Mormon to you. Alma chapter 32 speaks to the scientific mind on how to obtain faith where there is none.
March 18, 2009 at 10:28 am
kickyandfun
Hi Thaddeus,
Thank you for clarifying the matter for me; I appreciate it. I’m unfamiliar with Alma chapter 32 but will be sure to read it. (I’ve actually not read the Book of Mormon but intend to read it, along with reading the Bible in its entirety — quite an undertaking, especially considering the backlog of “must-read” books I currently have stacked near my nightstand.)
I do not have a desire to believe. I would like to be clear that I (and all atheists/agnostics, to my knowledge) am not “anti-god” or opposed to the existence of god. I understand that religious people have faith and that it’s good and strong enough for them. That is not the case for me. However, I really appreciate your thoughtful comments and the conversation here, and I will be sure to check out your blog for more info. I feel compelled to keep learning about religion (as well as science and philosophy), since it’s so important and influential to society and individuals. Thanks again for your responses!
March 18, 2009 at 11:28 pm
Thaddeus
Katie,
It’s cool. I have no desire to press you into anything, and I respect your point of view. It is hard for me to look from your perspective, though, so I apologize if I’ve been pushy or overbearing. I hear that we religious folk can be unaware of our obnoxious zeal.
I read some of your other posts on Mormonism, and I’d just like to request you don’t get all your information about the Church from “former-Mormon” sites. There is a lot of goodness in the Church that will never be represented there.
Thaddeus
March 19, 2009 at 12:00 am
kickyandfun
Hi Thaddeus,
No worries at all. I would never describe what you’ve said as the least bit zealous. I understand and appreciate your effort to inform me of your faith, and I’ve really enjoyed talking (as it were) with you about this. I found the “ex-Mormon” sites to be quite fascinating, but I don’t take their words to be indicative of every person’s experience. I’m sure you’ve noticed that I love “Big Love” — and while I know the LDS church has problems with the show (and that polygamous Mormons are not LDS), I’ve found it to be quite a positive and illuminating portrayal of a large part of the American population that is mostly mysterious to outsiders.
I’m very much interested in reading your blog and will definitely visit it tomorrow. Thanks again for chatting, and I hope you’re available for more discussions in the future!
Katie